Do you really have a beauty standard?

You undoubtedly have to know that beauty standards evolve and change over time. However, with the advent of social media and dating sites, it seems like we are changing our “types” preference much faster. What do you think the reason is? 

We often think that we are formatted by years of natural selection which causes us to like physical traits more than others. Beauty standards have been the same for a long period of time. They change depending on the culture, the people we meet or even according to what the consumer society shows us. However, these changes has always been happening slowly and some only have had a certain “type” of preference throughout their whole lives. In this day and age, it turns out that our beauty standards do not just change over months and years but can change very quickly and even in a fraction of a second.

Our perception of beauty changes according to the mass of information received

According to a study by Haiyang Yang, assistant professor at Carey Business School at Johns Hopkins University, the types of physique you like can change based on the opinions of others. Which, in this digital technology era, social media and dating sites era, can cause each and every one of us to change our beauty standards in the blink of an eye.

Our perception of beauty changes depending on the faces we see in everyday life. On dating sites we see a lot of them and only in a very short period of time. According to a study conducted by the University of Sydney, we are more likely to qualify a face as beautiful when the previous one we saw was also beautiful. It also works the other way around, we have an easier time qualifying a face as unattractive when the previous one we saw was unattractive. Thus, based on this observation, we quickly understand that the perception of beauty changes rapidly with each new face we see.

For what reason?

Our brains cannot process the same way all the new information that floods our visual system, explains Jessica Taubert, lead author of the study conducted by the University of Sydney. Therefore, it creates shortcuts to allow him to analyses better the content it receives and also lean on the previous visual cues to help itself.

The shortcut used here is what scientists call the “serial addiction”. “We expect that the physical state of an object will remain stable from a moment to another”. On dating sites, when you swipe too fast from one profile to another, the brain expects to see or not see the same attractive features you just saw in the previous photos.

Conclusion

Our perception of beauty is biased by the flow of images that continuously pass before our eyes, so it is important to take your time when you make your selections because you risk to miss out on an interesting profile.

Therefore, our perception of beauty evolves with each new face we see. Thus, our beauty standards evolve at the same time as we are confronted with the choices of images available to us. The positive point of this evolution is the fact of not being confined to be attracted by only a type of physical standard that it is difficult to achieve. Dating sites allow us to have choice and look at other profiles, so why not take advantage of it.

Do dating applications affect our brains?

Dating sites provide us with all kinds of emotions. From registration to the first disappointment, we go through all sorts of states that are directly influenced by our brain. But then what are the impacts of dating sites on our brain? We are going to answer this question.

Relationships influence your behavior

It is common to make “promising” encounters about love apps. You will find yourself talking for several hours with a person and suddenly that person stops answering overnight. Why does this happen? Because dating sites make some of us insensitive and brutal people in love. We don’t particularly know the person behind the screen, so we don’t feel any connection with them and we allow ourselves to be more brutal. Moreover, the wide choice of suitors that these platforms offer us could prevent us from having a real involvement in the different relationships that we develop. 

But when we have a crush, the behavior is totally different. According to a study conducted by the University of Pisa in 1999, the serotonin levels of people starting a relationship were similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). We are in a phase where we regularly talk with someone we like, miss and would like to keep a connection with forever. So we look at our phone all the time waiting for an answer, we send messages more often than normal, we feel a troubling lack that was certainly not there before.

Fear of commitment, more present on dating sites.   

According to Dr. Reynolds, who spoke on 3News, waiting for a reaction from your “match” on Tinder can give your brain a shot of dopamine. You get excited and imagine several possible scenarios. “Is he going to write me first? What’s he gonna come up with as a catchphrase?”  A reaction that can quickly turn to disappointment when after several hours you still haven’t heard from him.   

Linking relationships with several different partners can also develop a commitment phobia. Why is this ? When you have several choices, some people choose to try them all. Therefore, your relationships will only be trials. You will find that you’ll accept being a single who will only want to “try out” everything and meet different people every night. “This one’s good but maybe the other one is better; I should try to meet her too”. Dating sites will create a dating addiction in some users. There is a selection to find love, but there is also the fantasy of being elsewhere and always finding better. 

Finally, dating sites can also contribute to self-confidence. When you try one match after another, it probably means you are enjoying yourself. You get compliments all day long and this has an influence on your self-confidence. Conversely, it can have a self-confidence-diminishing effect if you have very few matches and you receive demeaning messages.To conclude, we can see that dating sites have different impacts on our brain. Depending on the situation, they can be short or long term. In some cases, the search for love that is supposed to take place on love applications deviates and turns into a quest for encounters. We develop a phobia of commitment and go through different phases of emotions: excitement, frustration, euphoria, or sadness. Some impacts can last over time, such as loss in self-confidence that will affect our daily life and our future dates.

Covid-19 and internet dating : Marriage or divorce?

The year 2020 will be for a long time the year of Covid-19 (also called Sars-Cov-2 or in a less precise way “the Coronavirus”). How many of us will remember in 5, 10, 20 or 50 years the confinement period ? 

Certainly many because, whether economically or socially, its impact has been enormous. 

Human beings are social animals, being isolated from their fellow beings has been a problem for them. The internet helped users keep in touch and has therefore logically seen its attendance increase since the introduction of confinement in countries throughout the world.

1. What is the current situation with Covid-19 ?

According to the site Channel news asia, from 31 December 2019 to 24 July 2020, there was unfortunately: 

  • Worldwide: 15,477,472 confirmed cases and 633,122 deaths. 
  • In Europe: 1,656,896 confirmed cases and 181,239 deaths. 
  • In France: 180,528 confirmed cases, 30,192 deaths, 5,720 hospitalized patients and 7 departments in a vulnerable situation. 

Although research is proactive, no vaccine has yet been found. It is therefore important for everyone to adopt a responsible behavior so as not to spread this virus. 

3. Dating sites and applications from confinement. 

Containment. Social distancing. Epidemic. Health crisis. This lexical field is far removed from that of internet assisted dating, but it is nevertheless true that in France, dating remains at the heart of the preoccupations of more than 25 million singles. 44% of them think they could fall in love without having met in “real life”. 

More than 22% of singles are registered on dating sites and applications. This is why we develop in this article, the interaction between the epidemic we are experiencing and the “internet dating” sector. » 

How did singles in 2020 react? 

Did he choose to stop dating sites, knowing that he couldn’t meeting anyone? Or did he rush to love apps to find his soul mate and prepare his schedule of ephemeral encounters after confinement? 

With more time to devote to the search for love online, singles have of course chosen to take refuge on dating sites. These social networks allow them to make encounters without leaving their homes and to schedule appointments later with the right sanitary measures. Of course, a small part has chosen not to use these platforms because they talk about not being able to meet people quickly. They chose to devote themselves to other activities. 

4. The contradictions in the media. 

If we browse the Internet to find out how Tinder, Badoo, Meetic, Lovoo and all their companions experienced confinement, we will be amazed at how contradictory they are.  

While some media tell us about an unprecedented drop in connections (audiences down 55% on average, decrease in the number of subscriptions), others will tell us that this sector has, thanks to the isolation, experienced an incredible craze (+280% subscriptions / 3 billion swipes in a single day on Tinder). 

Difficult in the midst of all these contradictions to know what is really going on. What is certain is that Covid 19 has had a significant impact on the dating sector. Whether positive or negative, how have users been affected by this phenomenon? We will answer this below.   

5. Tips to combat Covid-19 as a user of dating sites and applications. 

There are safety measures that allow dating app users to continue to search for Love (or to have one-night stands). 

For that, it is important to ask the 3 questions recommended by the sexologist Gilbert Bou Jaoudé: 

  • Do I take the risk to develop a serious form of Covid-19? 
  • Is the area where I am known to have many cases? 
  • Are the people with whom I live and who I interact with daily at risk? 

Before arranging a meeting, you should also ask these three questions to your suitors to be sure that you are not in any danger. 

It is also advisable to behave in an ethically responsible manner and to have the same reaction as a person potentially carrying an STD, so: 

  • Get tested 
  • Protect yourself to avoid contracting the virus (wear a mask when going out, avoid unnecessary travel, wash your hands regularly with hydroalcoholic gel). 
  • Notify your previous partners if you are carrying the virus. 
  • Isolate yourself if necessary

“Sexual intercourse is a time that increases the risk of transmission. With HIV and STIs, you could say you protect yourself with condoms, but with the Covid 19, you can hardly protect yourself during intimate relations just with a mask.  

6. The era of slow-dating : Towards more quality. 

The impossibility of “flirting” in vivo has led to a new way of communicating on internet dating networks: Slow-dating.

“Confinement will make it possible to slow down and to take the time to get to know each other”.

With the habit of hyper-consumption we all have, it was obvious that one day this would apply to dating applications.

Many of us have gotten into the habit of accumulating conversations with different suitors in order to make the most of the time spent on platforms such as Tinder, Badoo or Meetic. Thanks to the confinement, we got to know each other again and learned more about the people we were chatting with. As a result, the risk of disappointment decreases, we can spend more time with the individuals we meet.

7. Changes in human behavior as a result of confinement. 

But for Gilbert Bou Jaoudé, the risk of psychological distress related to isolation is also to be taken into account. 

“As a sex therapist, I can say that someone who finds himself in sexual isolation is at risk of finding himself in emotional isolation. But emotional isolation plus the current anxiety-provoking atmosphere can be psychologically destructive,” says the doctor. 

8. Conclusion 

We have known for some months how to protect ourselves from Covid-19 and may have to do so for some time to come.  

Love or one-night stands, allow human beings to continue to exist. It goes without saying that we would find it hard to do without it.

But we will have to integrate Covid-19 into the “ethics of love”, to protect ourselves, but also to protect others. Because protecting someone else……is one of the foundations of any beautiful relationships.

Part 2: Scams and dating sites: Exposing your walet !

Did you like our first article about the different scams to get money from dating sites? Discover other scams so you never get fooled again!


1. Misleading subscriptions.

Unbelievable! Finally a cheap dating site.  A subscription at only 1.99 €, you’d have to be crazy not to take advantage of it! You enter your credit card and pay the amount indicated then enjoy your great plan.  

Except that two days later, you are debited with 99.99 € by an unknown company! One phone call to your banker and you’re set, it’s the same platform. 

What happened? You seem to have missed the 1054th sentence of the TOS which explained that this rate was only valid for 1 hour and that you had to unsubscribe within the hour not to be debited with 99.99 €/month.

2. Right to withdraw.

On some sites, it is possible for us to enjoy a premium account free of charge for a few hours or a few days. We therefore take this opportunity to see if our sex appeal will work on these dating platforms. 

Except that the right of withdrawal is sometimes not respected and this even if we stop the offer in time! 

If you do not regularly follow the expenses of your bank account, it is quite possible that one or more monthly payments pass before you realize it. Beware because it is very often difficult to prove that unsubscribed in time from a specific site. 

3. « Stop » text with a fee.

Many sites ask for your personal information, including your mobile phone number. 

You do not mistrust them and therefore pass on this information. A few hours later you receive a text message from an unknown number offering you a free meeting with a partner right next door. What a bargain! 

Except that if you answer it, your sms will be charged at a hefty fee. If you choose not to answer it, you will continue to receive all sorts of messages offering partners from all walks of life, and they will come in very quick succession.

You will therefore want this to stop and read the entire sms received; at the very bottom you will be notified: “Stop sms: 4€”.  

You’ve finally understood the scam. Either you change your number, or you accept to receive this type of SMS continuously. Either way, you will unfortunately end up paying.

4. Trojan horses, viruses, malware.

Here we are faced with an even bigger problem. There are dating sites that open you up to emails infected with various viruses or Trojans.

Their purpose is simple, to access your sensitive information (names, surnames, age, addresses, income, hobbies, photos, personal videos, or even the password you use to access your bank accounts).

5. Selling private data & phishing

Once your data is collected by these ill-intentioned companies, it is sold to people who are generally reluctant to use it for your benefit. 

They will be used to: 

  • create fake profiles that will later be sold at scale, 
  • or to drain your financial accounts, 
  • or to publish your “naughty” photos and videos without your knowledge on dedicated sites, 
  • or blackmailing you by offering to sell you what they could have stolen from your computer that you would not like to see exposed to the public.

Conclusion :

Yellow triangle warning sign icon isolated


The recent data leak from the Ashley Madison site offers a glimpse into the world of fake dating sites.   

On most dating sites or applications (more than 75% of them), it is possible to be confronted with this type of scam. Luckily, some of them are honest, but you will still not be safe from encountering dishonest users. 

The only solution for you is to be vigilant and, as you have just done, spend some time informing yourself about the risks inherent on dating sites you visit or on the ones which you are already registered to. Be on the lookout for registration questionnaires that ask you more information about your finances than about what is supposed to interest potential dating partners. Be on your guard when a wave of interest is generated by your profile when you have not yet put a profile picture and/or have not indicated anything about yourself.

Part 1: Scams and dating sites : exposing your walet !

As you already know, there are a lot of ill-intentioned users out there trying to scam you on dating sites. However, we often forget that many of these platforms also use a variety of means to trick us and take our money as well. Who are they, how do they do it, how much are they able to get? Find out about the different scams used on dating sites to make you pay:

1. Fake dating sites

Creating fake dating sites to get money out of you is not difficult. Their owner buys several hundred or even thousands of complete fake profiles (last name, first name, age, address, photo, description, etc.) and lets them live by collecting payments from unsuspecting users. There is no advertising, so no big expenses to maintain this income. This scam allows the owner to make a profit easily! Quite often they put online several sites with almost identical appearance but with different names to accumulate the profits. Don’t be fooled!

2. False profiles (purchased lists).

The foundation of a dating site is to have users. But it is not always easy to attract them, let alone keep them on the platform. The solution to this problem: for a few hundred (or even thousands) euros, it is possible to buy a very large number of fake profiles. This is a very good way to attract paying subscribers, but do not expect to receive replies to your messages.

3. Fake likes, fake visits and fake messages.


This technique is often used by large dating sites. It’s simple and it works perfectly. You have just created your profile and you receive visits and interest from other users. Even better, your first messages! 

So you tell yourself that Love is just out there, within reach of your screen. You will first have to pay a subscription to be able to read your suitors’ messages. Your goal being to find your match, you subscribe to the offer that is the most advantageous for you, either financially or to maximize your chances of finding someone. Except that once your premium account has been activated, your suitors have either disappeared or do not respond to you in return. 

Did you take too long to respond? Not at all, you’ve been the victim of a scam pushing you to take a subscription as soon as possible.

4. Limited messages

Another very common way used by dating sites is the following case.   

Your profile has just been created and the suitor of your dreams has already sent you a message.  You reply and start a conversation. You are getting along and the fact that he wants to know more about you by talking to you in person proves it. 

You send him your phone number, but the message does not send. You’ve just reached your free message limit and now you have to subscribe to a subscription to share your phone number. So, you pay the requested amount.  

As if by magic, no more replies from the man of your dreams, or even worse, his account has just disappeared. You know what just happened.

Conclusion

Hacker in front of his computer. Dark face

You got it! You must be very careful when you register on dating sites. When you want to register, first find out more about the platform, check out the notices and do not get carried away as soon as you receive the interest of several potential suitors. Be patient, love will come to those who know how to wait and pay, because in the end, most dating sites require you to pay to access their full service. It is important to know this if you do not want to be disappointed.

Our relationship with our image and monetizing it.

Beauty and the body have always been subject to monetization or putting someone ahead of the game. Whether in one of the oldest professions in the world, prostitution, or to succeed in climbing the ladder by using one’s charms, we use our looks to attract, convince, please, make money or deceive.

Ways to make money from our looks:

There are many ways to monetize our beauty and they are constantly evolving.

Before the rise of social networks, being a model for a painter or a sculptor, (average wage of 14 euros net per hour) or photo model (from 480 € to 860 € for a beginner, from 840 € to 1200 € with experience and 900 € to 1600 € for modeling) allowed you to earn money thanks to your image.

But our vision of the world is impacted by what we see and there is an obvious link between current events and our relationship to image, we remember Paris Hilton who became known by the masses following her sex-tape, followed by Kim Kardashian who also used this method, or Clara Morgane who made the porn star more accessible by playing the role of the girl next door, cousin, or friend.

This is where our tendency to mimic comes into play: Why not do the same as these celebrities? Why shouldn’t we too have the right to make a living from our looks?

Today we are in an era of hyper valuation of the ego using our physical appearance; Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, dating sites, sites where you can sell photos, everything is done so that we have only one thing in mind: “What do you see when you look at me?

Gradually our mentality has evolved, Facebook has planted the seed of “I want to show myself in the best light as possible to as many people as I can”, Instagram has offered us filters capable of making us more attractive, Snapchat the ability to radically change the image we show of ourselves, while dating sites have proven that our image is our main way of selling ourselves to others.

A new trend has appeared with sites such as Mym or Myfan, selling our photos, sexy or not is now within everyone’s reach, allowing people to end the month with a full fridge, or even to buy a pair of Louboutins, or even a car!

Where naked pictures can embarrass or offend on social networks, on sites like Mym or Myfans, we pay to see them. This allows to create 2 types of communities, those who are interested in the lifestyle and personality of the people they follow and those who are interested in how they look. Some celebrities show themselves almost naked on Instagram or Facebook and do not ask for payment, they are even reported all day long because they can shock some Internet users. Monetizing one’s image helps to avoid this kind of reaction because the community is warned. In the United States, the monetization of one’s image is very common, in France, although it is evolving rapidly, is wrongly criticized.

It is obvious that these sites benefit from a system and that their users are not paid as much as they should be, nevertheless, it is still a job like any other, and if they exist it is because the demand is there 🙂

Conclusion :

Who are we to judge? Do we know the reasons that pushed these people to use these means to get what they want? What is the difference between your average joe and the celebrities we follow so closely on the magazines we buy?

Let’s never forget that beneath a physical person is also a soul, a heart, and that judging is often a way we use to protect ourselves from a form of jealousy or a baseless rejection that our ego finds hard to admit to itself? When we are on the beach in sexy swimsuits in front of everyone, we are doing practically the same thing as those women who do it on social networks or dedicated sites.

So let’s be happy for those who can live from this because they don’t hurt anyone, on the contrary, they allow those who admire them to dream a little.

Do dating apps impact our brains?

Dating sites give us all kinds of emotions. From signing up to the first meeting and disappointment, we go through all kinds of states that are influenced by our brain directly. What are the impacts of dating sites on our brain, are they short term or long term, we will answer these questions.

The evolution of our relationship with our image

Mankind and society


The Human being is a social animal that learns by imitating, i.e. he reproduces the actions that will tend to make life easier.

Our society is a person like you and I, it evolves, it is sometimes unfair, sometimes not even very beautiful, it seeks to discover itself and goes through different phases in its construction. 

In a form of schizophrenia, it condemns ideologies that exalt physical beauty while collectively yielding to the obsession for the look that will enhance it the most. 

Society values beauty (especially feminine beauty) more and more because, unlike intelligence, it is easily assimilated and does not represent a vital risk for the person facing it.

From nursery school to the workplace, through school and private life, physical appearance is a discriminating factor. Even if we find it hard to admit it, from childhood on, beautiful people are preferred to the best student, who will be set aside from the group. Beauty unites where intelligence worries. 

A number of studies corroborate this fact, Scania de Schonen, a French psychologist and director of research at the CNRS (French National Centre for Scientific Research) has shown female faces to three-day-old infants that were considered attractive by adults as well as others that were considered as less so, with a surprising result: the babies stared at the attractive faces longer than the others, it’s the unfathomable power of beauty.

But we must not make things easier by telling ourselves that beauty cannot rhyme with intelligence, we will come back to this point below.

As Aristotle said “Beauty is a better recommendation than any letter”, that’s why many will prefer to use their intelligence by showing a more superficial image of themselves, more apt to open certain doors for them.

The beauty business.


It is booming and generates billions of dollars every year. Beauty is a business and a pretty face or good looks attracts investors and offers certain opportunities. Many men and women are aware of this, and some are betting everything on their looks.

It is often at this point that a reflex induced by the history of our society comes into play. Where a handsome man will be praised for his efforts, a woman will be seen as superficial, even a prostitute, because we tend to remember that the oldest way to monetize beauty is by selling charm. That is why they are wrongly categorized as the oldest profession in the world.

And yes…humans tend to build bridges that don’t need to be to make things easier for themselves: she sells sexy pictures of herself? She’s a woman of pleasure!!!

Except that this rapid judgment doesn’t take into account all the work done beforehand!!! Because yes, having good looks often implies a constraining lifestyle: intensive sports training, diets, painful operations…Becoming/having/retaining good looks has become a profession in its own right, and too many allow themselves to make their judgment without taking all this into account, because we are not responsible for our looks, but for what we do with them.

Is the perception of our image the right one ?

“Mankind will always seek to look at himself, and as long as he does so in the most beautiful way possible”. If we were to represent the evolution of our relationship to our own image throughout the history of mankind in 7 points it would look like this:

  1. A blurry image of ourselves: The beginnings of the consciousness of our image.


Less than 300,000 years BC: Homo sapiens can see themselves for the first time by looking at their fellow creatures or see their reflection in stagnant water, they are already trying to change their image and are inventing make-up. (Lady of Brassempouy)

  1. Alerting our image: The beginnings of portraits.


3000 BC: Antiquity grants the artist the ability to interpret the model he paints, draws, describes, or sculpts. He will be able to either embellish it or make it less attractive, thus modifying the perception people will have of the model.

  1. Our Faithful Image: The beginnings of “real” mirrors.

1st century AD: Humans now have access to a realistic image of themselves as soon as they stand in front of a mirror made of “glass and sheet metal”.

4. Our image at will: The beginnings of photography.

1839: It is now possible to have with us a faithful representation of a chosen image of ourselves, made on a day when we are more prepared than usual. We can own our own image, but also those of others, the photograph becomes a memory that can be consulted and shared at will.

5. Broadcast our image: The beginnings of social networks.

2004 : Facebook launches

2006 : Twitter gains in popularity

The end of the twentieth century was marked by the emphasis on a perfect, athletic body that ceased to belong to the real and fell into fantasy, the mystical. Consumers were particularly under pressure between 2000 and 2005, when the use of Photoshop software for digital retouching became widespread, featuring perfect, inaccessible faces and bodies.

In the construction of the image in social relationships, Facebook and Twitter were among the first to federate crowds, the F on a blue background for its exhibitionism/voyeurism side, while the small bird will become known for the instant success it enables.

Our relationship to our image is evolving, we can choose the one we show and show it to a very large number of people. The “I show you the person I want to be” trend has just sprouted.

6. Our mastered image: The beginnings of “photoshop lookalike” applications

2010: Photoshop adds the “Puppet warp” feature which allows to warp specific elements of a photo.  

2010: Instagram is released on the market.

2011: Snapchat arrives!

Instagram, Snapchat and Photoshop… Magical applications! With a simple gesture of the finger, users no longer have to worry about shadows under the eyes or dull complexion, say goobye to unsightly bulges, dreamy chests now belong to us, we all change: our features, the color of our eyes, we can finally make ourselves as beautiful and good looking as we would like to be without spending 1 cent. And even better, we can show it to everyone!

Having become pros of photomontage, everything is now possible for us, we no longer invent a life for ourselves, we invent a new us. We have finally reached the same level as the stars we adored!

Conclusion: Is our image still our image?

Narcissism will develop strongly throughout the evolution of the human being, sometimes taking shape under the muscles of a bodybuilder in front of his mirror, sometimes under the retouched features of an Instagrammer, or by our last photo shared with this filter that makes our unsightly dark circles disappear. We want to look like what society shows us to be the definition of beauty. An ideal that we find in advertisements, on social networks or even in our neighbor who is always on her 31. The Snapchat filters, Instagram and others are moreover based on these standards (clear eyes, a baby skin, plump mouth, etc.).

This is the problem with these applications that allow us to make us all more beautiful or better looking than we are. On the moment our Ego feel great, we feel good, but our Ego is not fooled, it remembers the number of times we betray it.

In 2017, a study was conducted (RSPH) that dramatically correlates the increase in mental health disorders among 14 to 24 year olds and their increasing use of social networks. Another study shows that 46% of young Americans would rather have a broken bone in their hand than a broken smartphone. In addition, the feeling of failure associated with a lack of social approval (not enough “I like” mentions, retweets, etc.) creates anxiety and even depression in some people, especially young people.

Our advice is simple: protect the youngest ones, whether you are a parent, brother, sister, uncle or friend, remember to teach them that what they can see on social networks is embellished to be more appealing. Because that is what they are: displays where we are the products!

Dating sites : the numbers speak for themselves !

Today we’re going to look at what the French think about dating sites. According to a study conducted in January 2020 by Yougov, 22% of French people say they use or have already used the Internet to find love. Among millenials (18-34 year olds) this figure climbs to 40%.

Why ? 

What are their reasons for registering on dating platforms ? 12% of French people say they want to have fun (16% of men versus 8% of women) and 13% want to meet someone. 

48% agree that dating sites rarely lead to serious relationships, but still agree (43% of French people) that this type of platform remains ideal for meeting new people. A feeling confirmed by millenials (50%). 

However, many singles (one fourth of the French) are still ashamed to use the internet to find love and still consider that you have to be desperate to sign up.

The most used apps

Here are the top 5 dating applications most used by the French. Unsurprisingly, Tinder is the most used (41%), then Meetic (39%), then Badoo (39%), Adoptunmec (22%) and finally Happn (16%). 

European figures

According to the same study but this time at European level, 83% are not satisfied because of the conversations often turn sour but cannot do without dating sites in order to meet people. 

Expectations are often too high on dating sites. To find love, it is important to specify it in your description so that you don’t waste time talking to users who are not looking for the same thing.

We also noticed that dating sites remain very popular, especially among 18-34 year olds. It is important, just like in “real life”, you must be patient to find a rare gem.

Fake profiles: Tips to spot them.

You must have come across some fake profiles on dating sites. Gorgeous women or tempting messages, don’t be fooled anymore. Here are our tips to spot them.

Tips and tricks to spot a fake profile:

The Pictures :

Take a good look at them because some clues can save you time and a lot of disappointment:

  • Is it the same person on every picture?
  • Is it a photo montage?
  • Does the woman or man who is trying to seduce you seem too good-looking to be true or does his or her face look familiar?                      

Start by testing their photo in 3 simple steps, it only takes 10 seconds!

Step 1 :

Right-click on the profile photo that looks suspicious and then click on “copy the address/URL of the image”.

Step 2 :

Go to the Google search engine, then click on the small camera in the search bar.

Step 3 : 

Paste the address of the photo in the search bar. 

Google will now show you all the pages where it seems to have found an identical photo. Now it’s easy to find out if this mysterious person is lying to you about their photos.

The text:

It is possible to identify an imitator through his writing style. Pay attention. Are there any inconsistencies?  Never hesitate to reread your exchanges. Ask yourself the following questions: 

– Does his description use the same vocabulary as in his usual writing style?

– Does he regularly contradict himself?

– Does he write too quickly (as if he was copying and pasting) or too slowly (as if he took the time to translate)?

4 easy tests to reassure yourself :

It is obvious that if the person with whom you have been chatting to for some time is really into you, he or she will have no problem playing the game to reassure you. Just ask them:

  • Identity documents: It’s a simple and fairly effective way to verify a person’s identity. 
  • The “special pose” photo: What if you ask them to take a picture of themselves with their best face? Or their most charming wink? 
  • Sherlock mode: You’ve become the famous investigator! Look for inconsistencies in their social networks, his contact list is visible? Are his/her friendships related to what he/she is telling you? (unlikely that a Swiss banker has 541 Indonesians and no Swiss as friends) Are the photos in his/her albums his/her own?
  • The trick questions: “You told me you’ve been to Corsica, didn’t you? “, ” You told me you had 3 brothers, right ? “, ” It really reassured me when you told me you never raised your hand on an animal “. Be creative, whether it’s in the form of a question or an affirmation, there is often a way to unmask a liar, either this one will get lost in his stories, or he will confirm a story that you have invented from scratch 🙂
  • Chat with them over video. It’s the best way to find out who this person really is. Not only will you be able to talk with him or her in person, but you’ll also be able to see them.

There, you now have several techniques so that you will never be fooled, keep in mind that on dating sites, there are a lot of fake profiles. However, just like in “real life”, the digital world must respect certain logics, whether it is taking the time, social cues or even ethical. Our last piece of advice? Take your time, whether you’re trying to build a great story, or to make sure that the one you’re being sold is not a fairy tale with a disappointing ending.