Do dating applications affect our brains?

Dating sites provide us with all kinds of emotions. From registration to the first disappointment, we go through all sorts of states that are directly influenced by our brain. But then what are the impacts of dating sites on our brain? We are going to answer this question.

Relationships influence your behavior

It is common to make “promising” encounters about love apps. You will find yourself talking for several hours with a person and suddenly that person stops answering overnight. Why does this happen? Because dating sites make some of us insensitive and brutal people in love. We don’t particularly know the person behind the screen, so we don’t feel any connection with them and we allow ourselves to be more brutal. Moreover, the wide choice of suitors that these platforms offer us could prevent us from having a real involvement in the different relationships that we develop. 

But when we have a crush, the behavior is totally different. According to a study conducted by the University of Pisa in 1999, the serotonin levels of people starting a relationship were similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). We are in a phase where we regularly talk with someone we like, miss and would like to keep a connection with forever. So we look at our phone all the time waiting for an answer, we send messages more often than normal, we feel a troubling lack that was certainly not there before.

Fear of commitment, more present on dating sites.   

According to Dr. Reynolds, who spoke on 3News, waiting for a reaction from your “match” on Tinder can give your brain a shot of dopamine. You get excited and imagine several possible scenarios. “Is he going to write me first? What’s he gonna come up with as a catchphrase?”  A reaction that can quickly turn to disappointment when after several hours you still haven’t heard from him.   

Linking relationships with several different partners can also develop a commitment phobia. Why is this ? When you have several choices, some people choose to try them all. Therefore, your relationships will only be trials. You will find that you’ll accept being a single who will only want to “try out” everything and meet different people every night. “This one’s good but maybe the other one is better; I should try to meet her too”. Dating sites will create a dating addiction in some users. There is a selection to find love, but there is also the fantasy of being elsewhere and always finding better. 

Finally, dating sites can also contribute to self-confidence. When you try one match after another, it probably means you are enjoying yourself. You get compliments all day long and this has an influence on your self-confidence. Conversely, it can have a self-confidence-diminishing effect if you have very few matches and you receive demeaning messages.To conclude, we can see that dating sites have different impacts on our brain. Depending on the situation, they can be short or long term. In some cases, the search for love that is supposed to take place on love applications deviates and turns into a quest for encounters. We develop a phobia of commitment and go through different phases of emotions: excitement, frustration, euphoria, or sadness. Some impacts can last over time, such as loss in self-confidence that will affect our daily life and our future dates.

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